Don’t cringe as yet.. oh wait is it just me who cowers down when this subject is brought up?! Don’t get me wrong I’m not a prude (only maybe over some particular words or positions.. dare I go into more detail) but I personally believe that sex should be discussed behind closed doors with (ideally) the person you are doing it with. However, the older I get the more I believe it’s good to discuss subjects, and be more comfortable about an act which is so natural (maybe some positions don’t seem to be as graceful or natural as you first anticipated..!)
Here’s a couple of facts.. 62% is the average percentage of time single women achieve orgasm with a regular partner. Of course the dreaded questions I’m sure couples hate to be asked ‘how often a week’ surly this is dependent on the individuals involved, schedules, age, even age of relationship. But yet I’m sure we all think at some point is this ‘normal’. After research into this, and discussing with my friends, it seems 1-3 times per week is the ‘average norm’. So further into my research in this particular subject, I came across interesting facts about sex which I wanted to share – yes this is me slowly coming out of my shell and not being such a prude… positions of the week will be following suit… okay maybe not baby steps! What I will be doing, after all the research into this article is write a list of all the things I want to do… has anyone done this before?! Hopefully my husband will also be down for it all…!
1. Vibrators we’re invented for something else
The vibrator was originally invented in the 19th century as a way to reduce “hysteria.” That seems a little extreme. However, we do not recommend testing that theory by taking away a woman’s vibrator to see if she goes into a hysterical fit. That’s just dangerous.
– I’ve never used one… am I really missing out?! Surly my thoughts on this is the real thing should be better so why use a toy? Thoughts or disagreements?! I know I had this conversation with one of my friends a couple of weeks ago and she literally wrote down the name of one and told me to go buy straight away… this task has not been completed as yet.
2. The sperm ratio
Your average healthy man produces approximately 300 million sperm in just a teaspoon of his semen. However, it only takes one little swimmer to fertilize a woman’s egg.
– Scary thought.. no comments. Coming from a married lady who isn’t close enough to that feeling of ‘aw honey do you want to try’
3. The first thing people do after sex
Forget post-coital cuddling! According to a poll by consumer electronics site Retrevo.com, 36 percent of people under the age of 35 check their Facebook and Twitter accounts after a roll in the hay. Hopefully, they are not posting any pictures!
– Wow our generation sucks a little bit no?! I love nothing more than cuddling and I’d like to think I don’t fall into this category!
4. Which sex actually gets busy more often
Think men get laid more than women? Wrong! According to Men’s Fitness, women have sex 17 percent more often than the average guy. Go girls!
5. The longest orgasm
Even though the male O seems to get all the attention, it turns out the women get the last laugh when it comes to climaxing. The average female orgasm lasts 20 seconds — 14 seconds longer than the male’s six-second O.
– Another amazing point to why women rock!
6. Orgasms are good for you
Orgasms are good for your health! They can lower a woman’s risk of heart disease, stroke, breast cancer and even depression. So have sex and get happy!
– They are also great if you have a headache or just in general to make you happier.. that is a FACT.
7. Sexercise is not a myth
Sex counts as a workout! During 30 minutes of active sex, you burn about 200 calories.
– Okay why do I go to Crossfit so much when I could be at home?!
8. Women are friskier than we admit
Even though straight women reported only being aroused by men, researchers at the Queen’s University in Kingston, Ontario, found that most women in a study became aroused by every sexual stimulus they saw — including nude male and female bodies, heterosexual and homosexual sex and even animal sex.
– Not sure about the animal sex… I’d like to see if guys are the same!
9. Sex makes you dirty, in a good way
When aroused, people are not as likely to think things are disgusting, according to a study published in the online journal PLOS ONE.
– A good point. Now I don’t mean the dirtiness or anything unhygienic as that’s just not nice. My friend told me years ago that guys generally don’t notice if you have cellulite, if you have hips, curves, bumps. All they care about is how hot you look naked. Put it this way they wouldn’t be with you in that moment in time if they didn’t think you looked hot… so let lose!
10. How your brain responds to sex
Researchers at Rutgers University, who used fMRI scanners to find out exactly what happens in your brain when you’re aroused, found that different regions of the brain became activated in response to stimulation of the vagina, cervix, clitoris and nipples.
11. Sex releases hormones that prevent you from peeing
Ever notice that it’s kind of tough to go pee right after sex? Your body releases an antidiuretic hormone when you orgasm, which prohibits you from going potty as easily as usual. Just don’t hold it for too long, or you could risk infection.
12. Why it can be hard to conceive
Most of the time, a woman only releases one egg per month.
13. How young teens start having sex
According to Live Science, by the age of 19, a whopping 70 percent of American teenagers have already had sex.
– This is a crazy statistic to read. I was the bright age of 18 but even then I felt like it was young. Don’t miss out on your childhood!
14. Answering your phone during sex
Mom can multitask! According to a survey, at least 12 percent of women admitted to using their cellphones during sex.
– This clearly means the sex isn’t good.. terrible fact!
15. When kids lose their virginity
The Kinsey Institute estimates that, on average, boys lose their virginity at age 16.9. For girls, the age jumps to 17.4.
16. Physically talking about sex makes sex better
People who are more open to talking about sex are actually happier with their sex lives, according to Live Science.
– This I can understand, it counts as foreplay no?! Just me!
17. You’re not the only one aroused by food
Think food is sexy? Some people admit to feeling a similar sense of arousal when thinking about food as they do when thinking about sex.
– Cream and sex.. say no more!
18. Your body image plays a huge role in sex
According to Live Science, a small study of obese women found that those who accepted their bodies reported better sex. So appreciate your body, or your sex life could suffer!
– So I fully agree with this, and I’m my worst critic.. and I don’t know if I will ever get the point where I’m perfectly comfortable and acceptance of my body. However, as I have said on more than one occasion this blog is my savior and certainly I’m looking to change the way I feel about myself. Life is too short.
19. Sex increases your pain threshold
According to a study published in the Journal of Sex Research, a person’s pain threshold significantly increases during arousal.
– Can only imagine this is why people don’t mind doing S&M… they don’t feel the pain. No thanks!
20.You brain turns off (sort of) during sex
According to a study from the University of Groningen in the Netherlands, the amygdala — the part of the brain involved in fear and anxiety — shuts down during a female orgasm. So that brain mush you experience during sex is legit!
So there you go! My two cents for today. Any thoughts or points to raise on any of the above? I’m open to hearing your thoughts.